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Let It Go

Uploaded: May 17, 2014
As parents, it's easy to get bogged down with the hassles of everyday life - the toys that stub your toe at night, the dishes that pile up in the sink, or the sticky handles on every cabinet in your home.

A couple of days ago I heard a parody of "Let It Go" that reminds us how sometimes we need to just let these everyday hassles go so we can be there for our children when they need us. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Over the past two years of parenthood, I've learned the importance of letting go of bread crumbs on our floor, sticky finger prints everywhere, and small cars mysteriously disappearing.

But more importantly, I've learned to let go of perfection. We take photos to document our son's growth even if they turn out blurry or show him in stained outfits with mismatching socks. We write down memories even if they are quickly scribbled rather than neatly printed. And we read countless bedtime stories even if we have no energy for creative voices or sound effects. Letting go of the perfect expectations allows us to enjoy the actual moments and memories.

What have you learned to let go of as a parent?

Comments

Posted by LJ, a resident of another community,
on May 21, 2014 at 7:03 pm

Thanks for the link to the parody and for your blog!

I don't have children so I can only imagine what letting go means from a parent's perspective. I do recall a family story which may or may not be true although there is surely an element of truth in it? On the weekends, my dad would be in charge of us kids and would take us on errands or out for fun. The story is that my mother's response was "No, you can't take them out. You need to stay home AND be responsible for them AND do the laundry AND make the meals! " Dad was especially good at games and outings. He also changed diapers, supervised baths, cleaned bathrooms and washed dishes. He had 3 breakfasts and 1 supper he knew how to prepare, but laundry is one thing he never ever learned to do. That was the 1950's and 60's for you. I imagine my dad was pretty progressive for the times!


Posted by Cheryl Bac, a Almanac Online blogger,
on May 21, 2014 at 8:11 pm

Cheryl Bac is a registered user.

LJ- Thank you for sharing your story. It's always a treat to hear them. It sounds like your dad really enjoyed being a father. I think a lot of women, even today, would agree with your mom's comment about simultaneously watching the kids, doing laundry and making the meals. I hope that she was able to enjoy the break from the kids... even if it wasn't a break from laundry.


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